Monday, March 28, 2022

Still Looking For A Lenten Meditation


Then he said, "A man had two sons, and the younger son said to his father, 'Father, give me the share of your estate that should come to me.' So the father divided the property between them.

After a few days, the younger son collected all his belongings and set off to a distant country where he squandered his inheritance on a life of dissipation.


When he had freely spent everything, a severe famine struck that country, and he found himself in dire need.

So he hired himself out to one of the local citizens who sent him to his farm to tend the swine.
And he longed to eat his fill of the pods on which the swine fed, but nobody gave him any.

Coming to his senses he thought, 'How many of my father's hired workers have more than enough food to eat, but here am I, dying from hunger.

I shall get up and go to my father and I shall say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you.

I no longer deserve to be called your son; treat me as you would treat one of your hired workers."'

So he got up and went back to his father. While he was still a long way off, his father caught sight of him, and was filled with compassion. He ran to his son, embraced him and kissed him.

His son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you; I no longer deserve to be called your son.'

But his father ordered his servants, 'Quickly bring the finest robe and put it on him; put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet.

Take the fattened calf and slaughter it. Then let us celebrate with a feast, because this son of mine was dead, and has come to life again; he was lost, and has been found.' Then the celebration began.

Now the older son had been out in the field and, on his way back, as he neared the house, he heard the sound of music and dancing.

He called one of the servants and asked what this might mean.

The servant said to him, 'Your brother has returned and your father has slaughtered the fattened calf because he has him back safe and sound.'

He became angry, and when he refused to enter the house, his father came out and pleaded with him.

He said to his father in reply, 'Look, all these years I served you and not once did I disobey your orders; yet you never gave me even a young goat to feast on with my friends.

But when your son returns who swallowed up your property with prostitutes, for him you slaughter the fattened calf.'

He said to him, 'My son, you are here with me always; everything I have is yours.

But now we must celebrate and rejoice, because your brother was dead and has come to
life again; he was lost and has been found.'"


The parable of the prodigal pops up again, and I want to add my two cents.  I've written most of this before, nothing new to see here. Old wine, old wine skins, all that.  This is one of my favorite parables because I preached from it in one of my first sermons, as a student in a "foreign" church who needed somebody that morning.  I linked it to the song "500 Miles," which is actually a musical version of this parable.  So I like it for nostalgic reasons, and because it so perfectly fits the question Dom Crossan taught me to ask of the parables:  "How is the kingdom of heaven like that?"

The parable speaks in no uncertain terms: the younger son tells the father, "Give me what is coming to me." He means his share of the estate, the property he will inherit upon his father's death. I have to emphasize this point so we're very clear on it. You don't have to be a scholar of ancient Roman law to understand the basics of probate and inheritance.  In any society, property law abhors a vacuum.  When an individual dies in possession of property, whatever the legal system, that property must go to someone.  It's obvious under the Roman law Jesus and his audience knew that such property went from parents to children.  But, of course, it only passes on death.  My father's property was his until he died.  Then it want to my mother.  When she died, it finally came to me, and my brother. I took care of my mother's affairs (such as they were) after my father died, as he wished me to do. I treated the property (assets, mostly) as hers, not mine, until she died.  We all do that, if we're "good people."  The younger son is not "good people." He is saying to his father, in absolutely no uncertain terms: "Drop dead." The father means nothing to the son; his continued life only an obstacle to the son's financial freedom. Then, as now, it was money that mattered, money that would set him free. And the father? Certainly a reasonable father would at least say: "Oh?" He might go so far as to say:  "Begone, miscreant!  I'm calling my solicitor this intstant!  You'll not get a farthing!  Now be off, before I set the dogs on you! Never darken my door again!" This father, however, says: "All right." I wonder how the New York Times would write up that story.

Now realize, from this point on, the father owns nothing. You can't give one son his inheritance and not give the other son his inheritance, too.  Effectively the father has complied with his son's wishes.  He is dead.  He has to rely on the kindness of his elder son, or at least his sense of obligation. Because Dad is living on the land the older son owns, living off the property owned by his son. Dad has given the young brother his portion of all the father owned, in cash.  In essence, he's sold the other half to his elder son.  This helps put the attitude of the older son in the proper light.  If Dad doesn't have the good sense to live by reasonable rules, the son will; and that is Dad's salvation.

You have to understand this, or this story is just a nice story about forgiveness.  It's actually about what Graham Greene called "the appalling strangeness of the mercy of God."  You really need to see that, or there's no reason rehearsing this familiar story again.  We read/hear this story through millenia of layers of interpretation.  I want you to try to hear it as the first audience did.

Back to the younger son, who is as unreasonable as the father; but at least his unreason fits the expectations of the world. Living prodigally (hence the usual title of this parable), he is soon broke, soon reduced to feeding unclean animals (he is the servant to the pigs; how much worse can things get for him?). And so, his pride broken, he decides he will go home and beg from his father.

But he never gets the chance to beg. This is the part we all love, because we all identify with the wastrel son, we all carry some guilt about what we have done, could have done, should have done, wish we could do over. And we all want to enjoy unconditional forgiveness, to not even have to say "I'm sorry" to be accepted. Home, wrote Robert Frost, is the place that, when you have to go there, they have to let you in. We all want that much, at least, to be true for us, if we ever need it.

The son is coming down the road, rehearsing his speech, his plea for mercy.  He never (as TC notes) gets to.  The father sees him coming, and runs out to him.  He embraces his son, puts the family ring on his finger (Daddy was rich!), puts the best robe on his back, and tells the servant to slay the calf and start the feast! (Daddy can throw money around, too!  This is more like it!)  I'm a father.  I like to think I'd do the same thing, that nothing my child could do would ever but her beyond my love and compassion.  I know parents whose children have strained their affections to the utmost, to the point they began to believe compassion was the problem, not the solution.  Compassion won out, and their children became family again.  It's nice when it happens that way. But the audience for this parable has not forgotten what the father and prodigal clearly have; the father is not the owner of anything anymore.

Stop there, again.  The father owns nothing.  He is a tenant of his elder son, who is doing what is right, what is expected, what should be done under the law or Moses ("Honor thy father and thy mother") or any decent, civilized society.  But he's already done too much for the younger son, who ignored that "commandment" like it never existed, and he's ignored it himself by not insisting his son, for whose moral behavior he is responsible (as a parent!), behave accordingly or face the consequences.  In modern parlance, the father has been a doormat.  It's his fault this situation exists.  He was weak!  He gave the younger son too much!  We want to get caught up in the rush of emotion conveyed in that picture above.  We want the happy ending!  We even make one, where this parable doesn't provide it.

It is a pointedly ironic statement that we usually gloss over in our rush to identify with the prodigal, but when the father tells his older son, "My son who was dead is alive!," it's a reversal not of what has happened to the younger son, but of what the younger son wished for his father, for the wish of the younger son was granted. Maybe we should look at this as a "be careful what you wish for" story. But that still doesn't let the father off the hook for being completely insane. It is property we value, although when the prodigal puts property above paternal fealty, we all condemn the prodigal. When the father refuses to put property above paternal love, we all stand perplexed. It is right to love your child, but surely there should be boundaries to such love. Surely the prodigal should be taught a lesson by the father, not just by circumstances; a lesson about morality, and not just property and people. Surely absolute forgiveness should not just be offered to the prodigal without some act of contrition, some offering, some exchange. Without that, the forgiveness given her by the father is simply a gift! Shouldn't this forgiveness be part of some economy, some cycle of exchange?

But would it then be forgiveness at all? Or simply compensation for a loss suffered, for property taken, squandered, not valued, treated...prodigally? Who is the prodigal here? The younger son? Or the father?

So the older son, the dutiful one, the one who honored his father even after his father dishonored the entire system of property and exchange and ownership and familial structure and even morality/law, even after the father willingly and knowingly accepted the complete rejection of that system for the selfishness of the younger son (a selfishness even keener when we realize the concept of the "individual" we have today stems, not from the 1st century, but from 19th century England, from post-Enlightenment Europe, from the reaction to the dehumanizing machine world ushered in by the Industrial Revolution,  This father is acting on behalf of all fathers.  Every member of the original audience of this parable is having a VERY hard time accepting this story as it goes on.). The older son still honors the social system and the fifth commandment ("Honor thy father and thy mother").  The younger son tore that one up first thing in the story.. And for the pains and forbearance and loyalty to property and society of the older son, what reward? To see the prodigal feted, and his property (!) given to the son who placed property above propriety, who understood the lesson all too well, who took literally the message the it's property and money that matters? And it still does, because without it, what feast of welcome would there be? But the feast is with the elder son's fatted calf, the elder son's robe, in the elder son's house! The father has declared himself dead and divided the property.  It is no longer his property to give away. What is this father doing? Why does he continue to place love and forgiveness above property rights and ownership and even punishment for such violations as the younger son has committed?  The younger son has brought shame on the family a hundred times over; the older son has been the model of propriety.  And yet who is being celebrated here?

The story ends with the older son standing outside the party (that he's paying for!  That's his robe!  That's his fatted calf!  That's his money paying for the beer!), unable to go in, unable to go away.  If he walks away, he's churlish (though who could blame him, later?  When the emotions have calmed and the situation is reviewed calmly).  If he goes in, he condones his father's actions (but his brother is back!  Alive!  Safe!  Home again!).  Who is it, again, we identify with in this story?  Where is our place at this party?

No wonder we allegorize this story. No wonder we say the father=God, and prodigal=Sinner, the elder son=...? Well, who? Us? But aren't we sinners? Those who don't accept God's love and forgiveness? Yet the father tells him (and it is literally true; deeper and deeper the irony cuts!) that "Everything I have is yours!" (Kierkegaard notes that the "concept of irony" is that it undermines everything reliable, every truth, every piece of solid ground, until there remains nothing left to stand on, until irony destroys even itself. He was speaking of Socrates; but in the parables of Jesus we get the same feeling: that the ground is being cut out from under us, that we are left hanging, like a cartoon character who has run off the cliff, hanging over the abyss just before we start to fall.) Yes, everything the father has belongs to the elder son, because the prodigal liquidated his part and spent it on wine and women and who knows what all.  Everything the elder son, the symbol of society, has lived by, is called into question by the father's actions.

So what does this story tell us about God?   If father=God, what is the nature of God?  Well, maybe, just maybe, this story isn't theological at all. Maybe this isn't a revelation into the substance or essence or "mind" of God by God, at all. Maybe it is a lesson about living, about true life which is the basileia tou theou. Maybe it is a lesson about what is really important versus what we think is important. Maybe it is of a piece with the birds of the air and the flowers of the field, which neither sow nor reap, yet Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed as they; even Pharoah with all his grain stored in bins was not better fed than the birds. Maybe it's a lesson about the economy of scarcity versus the economy of community. Maybe it isn't about property at all, except that property is our treasure, and where our treasure is, is where our heart is. And so to get at our heart, God has to go through our property. And the idea of property, of ownership, of possession, of having and holding and controlling, is the idea that needs to be attacked, confronted, contradicted, over and over and over again, until we finally begin to let go, until we finally begin to hear, until we finally begin to think that maybe, just maybe, we don't need to be afraid.

Maybe it's not an allegory at all; or theology; maybe it's just a simple lesson: that everything we know is wrong. That love is the most important part of living, and that we all have to follow the most insane and self-destructive paths to learn this, and that if love isn't still offered when those paths come to an end, then it truly is a bleak and hopeless universe after all.

But it needn't be. Thanks be to God.

1 comment:

  1. I've never really understood this parable. It comes up enough that I have heard a number of sermons around it, some of the sermons were helpful, others not so much.

    Reading it now and the following commentary, I can't help but think that we are to see ourselves not in one or the other brother, but in both. For me, I can easily see myself in the prodigal son. God offers this joyful life, but I don't want to wait. I want my share right now. I have these things, money, property, but I want more. The new car is to bring me joy, but it is at best fleeting. I believe when I have the right house, or spouse or kids, everything will be right and good. And it's not. It's the American dream that the bank account with ever more zeros after the first number, the large mansion, the yacht, the vacations, will some how satisfy where instead they can leave an ever larger emptiness. When the money doesn't satisfy us, then alcohol, drugs, other addictions and obsessions try to fill the hole, but the hole only grows. Spiritually we end up starving with the pigs. As for the "good" son, he has everything he needs, but is still dissatisfied. I have my daily bread, hell a lot more than my daily bread. Even with that, it is easy to be jealous of those who have more, the “undeserving” that gets more or has less troubles. The older brother is envious of his brother getting what he doesn't deserve. Both are alone, the profligate son having taken his inheritance out of self-centeredness and squandering it until he was truly alone with the unclean pigs. For his older brother, he stands alone outside the party, unable to enter because of his own envy and jealousy (amplified by the fact that he is paying for the party!).

    Maybe what is being offered both brothers by the father is community. The prodigal son is being called back into the family, the community, the party is everyone. The older son is alone outside, he too is being called back into the family and the community. It is when we separate ourselves and are alone from the community and gad that we suffer.

    It's not unusual to here the newcomer at an AA meeting say they are a terrible person, to say they are unlovable and unworthy of love because of what they have done. A good friend of mine will tell newcomers, "just keep coming back, we will love you until you can love yourself". I’ve watched people be absolutely shattered by hearing this. They find it unbelievable that anyone could love them. They haven't been just terrible children, but they often have been terrible parents, spouses, friends, employees and more. They have been violent, cheated on their partners, thieves, stealing from their own families. They arrive and they are told they are loved, by this strange, motley, spiritual community. The individual may tell them, but it is the community that loves them. I deeply believe this is god acting through the group. (Whatever saved means in Christianity, I have become ever more certain that being saved is not an individual act but something that happens as a community.) The newcomers have not earned, or are deserving of love if you know their stories (the old timers aren’t either), but by the act of being part of the community they receive this love. If they stay, share, are of service in even the smallest ways, this loves grows and it grows in them and they can give it back.
    I can understand the one brother hesitating at the doorstep, the other brother dreading coming back home. To step into the party is to gain community, love, belonging. But to step into the party is to lose the want, the envy, the judgment. What will be left of me without those? It’s a radical act of faith to walk through that door, not everyone can do it. This is what I think god is inviting us to do, to step through the door.
    I have much more that I have been thinking, but this enough for now.
    (by the way, I think of this place as strange, motley and beautiful community too.)

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